marriage~yeye

When i reached 22, friends around me keep asking n telling about marriage. when, how, with who, where all about with a life partner. even my family esp mama n abah allow me to find my life partner starting fr now.. itz not easy as couple. pacaran we can jst easily dump then when i'm bored or he's not my type. but husband? thats y we should think carefully to find our hubby. a guy who can lead us to dunia n akhirat, a guy who can b a soleh husband n also a good father, a guy who can gives us unlimited of loves. when lots my friends told me about what they had done wif their beloved at the young age (girls talk). yeah they regreat for not being virgin or d 1st for their future husband.. i only can gv some advised..because u guys r still my wonderful friends i love u.

Marriage is a one of sunnah Nabi. it can built loves, caring, sharing, united bwtn husband n wife. it also can give us next generation of Muslim.

“Dan diantara tanda-tanda kekuasaanNya ialah Dia menciptakan untukmu isteri-isteri dari jenismu sendiri, supaya kamu cenderung dan merasa tentram bersamanya, dan dijadikanNya diantara kamu rasa kasih sayang. Sesungguhnya pada yang demikian terdapat tanda-tanda (kekuasananNya) bagi kaum yang berfikir”. (QS. Ar-Ruum:30).

Menikah bisa menjadi wajib, sunnah, harsam, makruh atau mubah. Wajib bagiorang yang sudah mampu kawin, nafsunya telah mendesak dan takut terjerumus dalam perzinahan. Sunnah bagi orang yang nafsunya telah mendesak lagi mampu kawin, tetapi masih dapat menahan dirinya dari berbuat zina. Dan menikah baginya lebih utama. Haram bagi seseorang yang tidak mampu memenuhi nafkah batin dan lahirnya kepada isteri dan dpt menahan nafsunya. Makruh bagi mereka yang lemah syahwat, dan mubah bagi yang tidak terdesak oleh alasan-alasan yang mengharamkan, mewajibkan, menyunahkan dan memakruhkan (Sayyid Sabiq, Fiqh Sunnah jilid 7)

Rasulullah SAW memberikan tuntunan kepada kita tentang wanita seperti apa yang harus dipilih:

“Seorang perempuan biasanya dinikahi karena empat perkara: Harta, nasab, kecantikan dan agamanya. Maka utamakan memilih wanita yang beragama, kamu akan merugi (bila tidak memilihnya).” (HR. Bukhari)

To have 4characteristics of woman is hard to find n match. But in ending of hadits, ditekankan agama yang baek. Because, InsyaAllah a solehah woman can be good wife and also a responsible mother to her children. To get a solehah woman in this world is not easy like petik jari because they r not easy to find in Chowkit street walking alone, in night club or in tempat maksiat. Usually we can find them in mosque, musholla, pondok pengajian or ceramah2 agama.

Jodoh pertemuan di tangan Allah. we only can pray to get a soleh husband/ solehah wife for our own bright future. As a human, we know that there's no such a word of couple/pacaran/bf/gf/awek/pakwe in Islam. but why lots of us still love to do the -ve sides. 'jgn menghampiri zina' because Allah knows that when a gurl n a boy stay together alone (even at d 1st place they dont do anything..finally only them can answer it). when we think back dosa pahala, halal haram.. we'll stand back to our own believe. its just that we as human being always forget.. i'm not such a perfect gurl to give my own stand, i'm not even ustazah (kecik2 pnh nk jd ambition nih) to give talks.. but as Muslim, we should share together anything n remind d others. (buhsan laa if nk jadi nakal je..jadila baek kejap).. for me, i still dont hv a bf since when i was 0age till now. i'm not ashamed of it, if they wanna cll me xlaku or what eva( hello i'm still young, marvelous n lots wanna be wif me-malas je nk kecoh2)... i'm finding for a right guy, i think so do the others out there. (cess..mcm ayat2 cinta -fahri laa plak)